Black Tie’s

I attended the funeral of an acquaintance today which was a sad, sombre and joyous affair as we celebrated his life. Stories of wonderful times were told and everyone gave him a send off that none of those who attended will ever forget.

As I searched my wardrobe earlier in the week for my funeral attire I discovered yet again that my black tie was missing. I searched again, drawers, cupboards, wardrobe and under the bed. I have no idea why but it seems to be a law of the universe that if things go missing they usually end up under the bed. It wasn’t there although I did find a missing sock, a pen and a £2 coin.

I got my suitcases out with the winter clothes in, nope not there. I went to my stepmums and checked the case I had left. A myriad of coloured ties but no black tie and I was getting a little annoyed now. Why over a tie? Well it’s like this I have bought dozens of them over the years and all have disappeared. It’s as thought the dearly departed I went to send of took the ties with them.

Then I remembered my dad borrowed one, my three brothers also, one of them twice as he couldn’t find the first one I lent him. My friends borrowed them and finally the one I was looking for I remembered I had lent that one to my son. He remembered too that he had lent it to a friend.

When I enquired after said tie the friend of a friend of a friend had lent it to another friend who had lent it to a friend of a friend. The tie has had quite a time of it and become cosmopolitan and quite possibly bohemian in the process. It has been to several cities in the UK and in Europe and was last seen in Australia and now possibly on it’s way to Uganda.

So next time your looking for your black tie and it’s mysteriously disappeared just think of the adventures it could be experiencing at that very moment. It sort of put life and death and the universe into perspective something our departed acquaintance would have laughed at.

Black Funeral Tie

Where is the tie now?


Reality and Celebrity TV Generation mix

Do programmes like strictly, dancing on Ice and I’m a celebrity get me out of here and the voice aid inter-generational understanding and interaction?

The more mature contestants on these shows have shown that just because you are heading towards getting a free bus pass it does not mean you are past it. It’s not just celebs who are fitter, healthier and willing to try new things many over 50’s are taking part in sports and activities that their parents’ generation at a similar age would not have.

This year many rock Icons turn 65 including David Bowie and the Black Sabbath reunion, album and tour caused a media frenzy when it was announced. There are ageing icons from all walks of life Helen Mirren and Richard Gere form the acting world, Alex Ferguson and Sharon Davis from sport. Authors Patricia Cornwell and John Grisham and from the world of science Stephen Hawking has been described as the first rock star of science.

Older men have always courted younger women and now we have the rise of the cougar and recent research found that around 65% of the under 35’s would date someone up to 30 years their senior if they were attractive an interesting. We also have many mentoring schemes where one group passes its expertise and knowledge to another and this is a two way street.

In the face of all this my question stands do prime time TV shows that show the over 50’s in a positive light aid intergenerational understanding and interaction?